Saturday, August 1, 2009

How to Handle a Breakup While You Still Want Your Ex

By Jane Mccarthy

If you find yourself trying to figure out how to handle a breakup when you are still in love with your ex, this is a very painful place to be. You are experiencing all kinds of conflicting emotions while at the same time wanting to get back with your ex.

In figuring out how to handle a breakup when what you really desire to do is to get back together with your lost love, a detailed plan of action is necessary. Two objectives need to be accomplished. The first is that you must deal with the emotional hurt and pain inflicted by the separation. The second is that you need to get yourself into a prime spot where you will be able to get back with your ex.

Number one is likely the most difficult. With the variety of things occupying your mind, you'll have to pull it together both emotionally and mentally. In order to make this happen, two big steps are necessary:

1. Spend some time alone

This is an important step in learning how to handle a breakup and cope with the emotions of it. Take a few days by yourself to organize and analyze your thoughts and feelings. Try to determine (as objectively as possible) what went wrong in the relationship and what changes you could make to prevent these things from happening again.

2. Direct your mental focus away from thoughts of your ex

After some time spent cleaning your thoughts, step two to figuring out how to handle a breakup is to change the focus of your mind and direct it toward self-improvement and away from the relationship. Do some different things, like getting a new hairstyle, having fun with friends, volunteering to help others. These things will diminish the pain of the separation and build up your confidence.

Following the completion of the first part of the strategy, the second part shouldn't be too hard to pull off. The hard part will already have been accomplished-knowing how to handle a breakup mentally and emotionally, the only remaining component is to call up you ex and ask them to have a casual meeting with you.

Since some time will have passed since you last saw your ex, it is likely that they are missing you as much as you miss them. When you meet, dazzle them with a new look and a confident attitude. Show them that you have it all together and have learned how to handle a breakup. This will likely make you irresistible to your ex and put you in the best possible position to restore the relationship.

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