I'm sure you've heard that you should avoid "ordinary boring conversational topics" when flirting. Experts will tell you that it's a sure way to make the girl yawn. And that's no way to get her to remember you after you leave.
This is wrong in my view. It's actually probably more weird to a girl if you don't ever get around to asking about mundane aspects of her life.
What are the so-called "boring questions"?
What do you do?
What's your major?
Have any children?
Do you live around here?
While it is possible to bore a girl to tears if you constantly barrage her with an inquisition, that doesn't mean you can't ask some of these questions.
Here's the key principle:
ORDINARY QUESTION FLIRTING PRINCIPLE: When you ask an "ordinary question", make sure you PLAY with her response.
I will often, very early in the conversation, ask a woman what she does for a living, or, ifshe's in school, I'll ask her what she's studying.
But after I get a response from her, I get playful with her response.
Here's an example:
If she says she's studying radiology, I'll say "Oh, good, so if I were to break my leg right now, you'd totally help me out. You probably have X-ray equipment right in your backpack, right?"
She laughs. She feels like you value her for something other than her looks. And you frame the interaction as one of her being ready to SERVE you in some way.
Don't worry about every guy using this line after reading this article either. Women never get tired of this kind of playful role-playing.
Try it. The next time you're talking with an attractive woman you've just met, give it a shot. And don't restrict yourself just to women you're attracted to.
I even use it with little old ladies. "My goodness, I can tell, if you were my Grandma, you would totally bake me cookies every day, even though my mommy told you not to." They all love it!
This is wrong in my view. It's actually probably more weird to a girl if you don't ever get around to asking about mundane aspects of her life.
What are the so-called "boring questions"?
What do you do?
What's your major?
Have any children?
Do you live around here?
While it is possible to bore a girl to tears if you constantly barrage her with an inquisition, that doesn't mean you can't ask some of these questions.
Here's the key principle:
ORDINARY QUESTION FLIRTING PRINCIPLE: When you ask an "ordinary question", make sure you PLAY with her response.
I will often, very early in the conversation, ask a woman what she does for a living, or, ifshe's in school, I'll ask her what she's studying.
But after I get a response from her, I get playful with her response.
Here's an example:
If she says she's studying radiology, I'll say "Oh, good, so if I were to break my leg right now, you'd totally help me out. You probably have X-ray equipment right in your backpack, right?"
She laughs. She feels like you value her for something other than her looks. And you frame the interaction as one of her being ready to SERVE you in some way.
Don't worry about every guy using this line after reading this article either. Women never get tired of this kind of playful role-playing.
Try it. The next time you're talking with an attractive woman you've just met, give it a shot. And don't restrict yourself just to women you're attracted to.
I even use it with little old ladies. "My goodness, I can tell, if you were my Grandma, you would totally bake me cookies every day, even though my mommy told you not to." They all love it!
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