Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Simple Yet Sure Fire Steps to Get Your Girlfriend Back

By Toni Tinkin

If you have just recently broken up with your girl, then most likely your feelings are falling apart. Break-ups are definitely hard to handle because love doesn't fade overnight, especially for a girl you feel very involved. If you are thinking of winning her back, then you should know how to do it right. Read on and learn these easy to follow steps to get your ex girlfriend back.

Step 1
Before you start thinking of ways how to move forward, you must first look back. A simple yet thorough retrospection will do the trick. Analyze the situation specifically the events that led to your break-up. You have to know what happened and what factors caused the problem so you would have a better vantage point in addressing them one by one.

Here are simple questions you can ask yourself:
* Have I been faithful to my girl?
* Have I hurt her feelings?
* Have I given the attention, care, and love she need?
* Did we have open communication channels?
* Was I vocal and expressive of how I feel?
* Is there something in me that has changed, and perhaps she disliked?

By answering questions like these, you can help yourself analyze and weigh the situation out. It will enable you to uncover the causes of the break-up, and will help you devise ways and strategies to move forward.

Step 2
Now that you need to know where the problem areas are, it is time for you to address them one by one. Start with those that you can easily develop. These could include aesthetic factors like sporting a new haircut, a new wardrobe style, working out in the gym, and other simpler yet highly noticeable things.

After these, you may proceed to developing inner and more subtle characteristics. Work on improving your personality, self esteem, and regard for urgency and responsibility among many others. Use the things you've learned from step one and try to address each item as thorough as you can. Doing so will highly increase the chances of getting back your girl.

Step 3
Befriend your ex girlfriend. Start making the initial contact. This will be surprising for your ex but it will show her that you are confident and emotionally stable. Spend time with her like you would with your other friends. Invite her to talk over coffee, grab dinner, or maybe even watch the movies. Think of it as a phase where you are courting it again. Show her what you've got, what you've changed, and what you've made better.

Step 4
Lastly, demonstrate your capacity to communicate. After all, most relationship problems arise from lack of open channels between partners. Tell her how you really feel. Show her your sincerity. Apologize for the things that you've done and assure her that you will strive to never let that happen again. Give her your side and listen to her side as well. From this point, you are on your own. It could be a long shot or an easy one to get her back with you, but who knows? You will never know unless you try.

These steps to get your ex girlfriend back are simple. All you need to do is be strong, stay positive, and do everything that you think is right. Let your love guide you toward the right things. Do your part and everything will be alright.

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