Thursday, July 23, 2009

Choosing to Forgive & Learning How to Recover From a Broken Heart

By Anne Torres

INSIGHT #1 WHEN Opting TO FORGIVE AND RECOVER FROM A BROKEN HEART - Forgiving means you're willing to let go of the labels you bond to yourself as you at the same time accept responsibility for your actions. Keep in mind acceptance of responsibility doesn't mean beating yourself up.

It simply means acknowledging what you've done and accepting the results of those actions. Releasing any live opinions for any personal errors as you start to accept responsibility for your role in things is essential to prevent your hurt from deepening. Understanding this is how you learn to recover from a broken heart.

INSIGHT #2 WHEN CHOOSING TO FORGIVE OTHERS AND Recuperate FROM A BROKEN HEART. Forgiving someone for the hurt they caused doesn't mean letting them off the hook. You see, forgiving doesn't mean forgetting or being a doormat. Resenting someone else for the hurt they caused and holding them answerable only hurts you.

Remember, since the only person you can change is yourself, all you oversee to set yourself up for thwarting. Remember forgiveness isn't about your ex, its about you and choosing to make healing the priority.

INSIGHT #3 WHEN Preferring TO FORGIVE OTHERS AND RECOVER FROM A BROKEN HEART. Forgiveness is a commitment you make to release your judgments for past mistakes (whether your own or others). You see, the opposite of forgiveness is resentment and regret.

With resentment you're simply bearing a grudge for what's gone down as you relive the painful events of the past. Your hurt becomes just cause for why they're to blame. With regret, on the other hand, you replay past events wishing they could be undone. Either way, with regret or resentment your stuck in the past wishing to undo what can't be undone. Remember choosing to forgive is the best gift you could give yourself. It's a decision to make healing the priority.

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