Thursday, July 16, 2009

Reasons To Be And Not To Be Jealous

By John Knight

There are reasons to be jealous as well as reasons not to be jealous. Basically, this is a human emotion which is a manifestation of human imperfection. The emotion often arises due to an insufficiency which a person has seen in himself in comparison to another individual. This type of emotion can always blind good judgment and often leads to illogical and erratic compulsions.

Jealousy that occurs in a place where work or profession is involved is known as professional jealousy. This is common among competing individuals and this can occur in any office whether in school or in a company. A person who is jealous finds discontentment in his own being and this is very depressing. Jealousy can set in at any time in any place. It is an uncontrollable tendency that occurs in any environment be it at home, school or at the workplace.

It is a fact that cannot be discounted that there are parents who play favorites and this is indeed disappointing to those who are not favored. This is also unfair to the child who is not showered with same affection or attention as the other one who is favored. This is the most common form of jealousy that exists in a family at home which is referred to as sibling jealousy. A sibling might be jealous of another sibling for want of affection or attention from the parents or one of the parents.

The person who is jealous needs an assurance and guarantee that he is not incompetent and he has the capability to fulfill anything if he wishes it. It takes self-control and some degree of tolerance to suppress the feeling of being jealous. It takes a strong emotional make-up to convince oneself that the insufficiencies found in himself is not permanent and can be overcome if he wills it to be. It takes an amount of will-power and mind control to assuage this condition.

Comparing oneself to others is never a good idea if the result will only boil down to jealousy. Considering the capacity of the person to understand his misgiving and imperfections can be a good remedy and reason not to entertain jealousy. This is an imperfect world filled with imperfect people who are dealing with the complexities of life in their day-to-day activities leading to some reasons to be jealous.

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