Why is it sometimes so difficult to win back an ex? No doubt you've tried your best to get your love back, but everything you've tried so far has ended in failure and now you're desperate and frustrated.
Actually, there are two reasons why winning back an ex is so tough. One is the balance of power between the two of you. When you're desperate to win back the person you're still in love with; the one who has dumped you, the power is all on their side of the equation.
Second, it's just the plain and simple truth that most of us don't have any idea how to get back with an ex. As a result, we tend to waste a lot of time trying to do everything we can think of; and that's where we go wrong.
Truth is, once your ex has the upper hand in a relationship you can find yourself forever trying to catch up to them and both of you know it. If your ex knows that you want them back often times they will make you work to get them back and they will often enjoy the drama of putting you through getting them back. Plainly put, they have something that you desperately want and boy do they know it.
The way to go if you want to win back an ex is to keep your cool and keep your distance. Don't let anyone you know, especially your ex know that you want to get back together with them.
If you're reading this because you feel you know that your love is about to break up with you, then when the break up comes agree to it calmly and rationally and let them go. Don't give them a clue that you desperately want them to stay.
Following the breakup, keep yourself busy and try to occupy your mind with things other than your ex. At this early stage, it's not going to help you to obsess about the breakup and trying to get back with your ex.
Keep your distance. Don't let yourself get caught up in their lives; if they should call you, be polite but let them know you have places to be and keep your conversation short.
This, of course is the hard part. It's only natural to want to be around your ex and try to do anything you can to prove to them that they need you in their lives; but don't do this, whatever you do!
This is entirely the wrong approach to take. The ex will either become sick of you being around all the time or see you as someone who they can take advantage of. What won't happen is that they'll take you back - this is a trap, so avoid it!
Stay away from your ex and the playing field becomes a lot more level; you may even find that the power has shifted in your favor and they'll come to you. This isn't an easy thing to do, but it is often the only way to win back an ex.
Actually, there are two reasons why winning back an ex is so tough. One is the balance of power between the two of you. When you're desperate to win back the person you're still in love with; the one who has dumped you, the power is all on their side of the equation.
Second, it's just the plain and simple truth that most of us don't have any idea how to get back with an ex. As a result, we tend to waste a lot of time trying to do everything we can think of; and that's where we go wrong.
Truth is, once your ex has the upper hand in a relationship you can find yourself forever trying to catch up to them and both of you know it. If your ex knows that you want them back often times they will make you work to get them back and they will often enjoy the drama of putting you through getting them back. Plainly put, they have something that you desperately want and boy do they know it.
The way to go if you want to win back an ex is to keep your cool and keep your distance. Don't let anyone you know, especially your ex know that you want to get back together with them.
If you're reading this because you feel you know that your love is about to break up with you, then when the break up comes agree to it calmly and rationally and let them go. Don't give them a clue that you desperately want them to stay.
Following the breakup, keep yourself busy and try to occupy your mind with things other than your ex. At this early stage, it's not going to help you to obsess about the breakup and trying to get back with your ex.
Keep your distance. Don't let yourself get caught up in their lives; if they should call you, be polite but let them know you have places to be and keep your conversation short.
This, of course is the hard part. It's only natural to want to be around your ex and try to do anything you can to prove to them that they need you in their lives; but don't do this, whatever you do!
This is entirely the wrong approach to take. The ex will either become sick of you being around all the time or see you as someone who they can take advantage of. What won't happen is that they'll take you back - this is a trap, so avoid it!
Stay away from your ex and the playing field becomes a lot more level; you may even find that the power has shifted in your favor and they'll come to you. This isn't an easy thing to do, but it is often the only way to win back an ex.
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