Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Guidelines In Fixing Broken Romances

By Becky Johnson

When your romantic relationship is on the rocks or you have just broken up with someone the pain can be almost overwhelming. Therefore it is obvious why there is so much information and advice on how to fix a broken relationship.

Before you make the effort to learn how to fix a broken relationship it is a good idea to spend time putting some serious thought into whether or not it is even worth fixing. Sometimes loving the other person simply isnt enough, especially if the pain that comes with a relationship outweighs the pleasure.

Take a break

The first advice one may hear is to give it some time. This way, one can contemplate on the source of break-up. It is hopeless to rush into conclusions without first knowing the problems. Although confronting your former lover immediately is an impulsive response, this can do more harm than good. At this point, you (or both of you) are still outraged with each other. Instead of resolving the issue, heated debates could be produced which can further worsen the situation. Besides, demanding from your ex might turn you off.

If you have any idea of how to fix a broken relationship then you will know that it starts with focusing on yourself rather than your ex, even though that might sound quite selfish. You need to spend some time thinking things through. Ask yourself why the relationship ended and what you could have done differently. You should also be considering what made you happy about the relationship and weigh this up against what made you unhappy. This should give you an idea of whether the relationship is worth rekindling or not. Meanwhile get on with your life as best you can. Go out and socialize and get some new clothes or a haircut if it helps to heal your bruised ego.

Open up

If after a month or two you are still wondering how to fix a broken relationship then it may be time to make the first few tentative steps towards restoring communication. Start with a phone call to test the waters and if your ex seems willing, arrange to meet up in a neutral environment. When you meet up to talk to your ex be yourself and tell the truth but at the same time be respectful of their feelings and dont express your opinions with harsh or bitter words. You also need to be prepared to listen to what they have to say even if it is critical, and be willing to work on yourself.

These are some guidelines in fixing a broken romances. Surely, there may be a thousand more articles just like this. These suggestions may seem difficult but with self-determination, these strategies may save relationships. Just remember to take time and open your self to an honest communication.

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