Saturday, September 12, 2009

Cracking the Male Code Does Not Have to be Hard!

By Alan Bentley

Have you noticed a considerable amount of frustration when it comes to your personal life and dating? It seems that many women find it very hard cracking the male code, as they feel they are at a disadvantage. This is not just true in the workplace or at home, but especially so when dating.

While it may be a sweeping generalization, women do need to be far more assertive in the professional arena, long felt to be a man's world or domain. Just look at the number of men who have advanced to senior positions as opposed to their female counterparts. There is no reason for one gender to outperform the other on the face of it and it might just be down to a lack of assertion.

Does cracking the male code mean trying to get on the same wavelength as them, mentally and emotionally? In other words, does it mean that a woman has to act like a man to succeed? Many would argue that equality does not mean that you have to be the same, but rather you need mutual respect.

Confidence is everything and is the reason why you must show this in your relationship. Of course you should never be subservient, but many women seem to be almost hardwired to accept the man's dominant position and this invariably leads to discomfort down the road.

Did you know that cracking the male code is quite easy? The trick is not to over analyze it. For example, just look at how they talk in sports metaphors and worship anything to do with sports, in general. Way back in the days of our ancestors, they used to have to hunt in packs and this is probably a throwback to that. They feel safety in numbers and this helps them to hide behind any errors they may make.

Maybe you need to domesticate your man and this is where cracking the male code can be a lot of fun. If you try and look at the big picture where you fit in, you will see that men view women as someone who takes care of details. As such, when he provides the food, you are expected to cook it. Modify your relationship and see what happens.

Many men find confidence to be a very sexy attribute in a partner, so make sure that you show this at all times. This might well benefit your relationship more than you could imagine. This is not to say that you should be aggressive, even though he may come across like that. Don't just act like him.

Before you analyze your partner too much, remember that fundamentally there is a big difference between men and women and this is further compounded by the fact that as individuals we are all very different anyway. Just accept him and he will accept you and remember that life is too short for any other approach.

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