Monday, September 21, 2009

How Do You Understand Men's Interest?

By Alan Bentley

For the lonely and single girls out there, the age old question is " how do you attract men's interest? You may think that you have a natural, inbuilt ability to do so, but after some false starts you start to have second thoughts. Nobody wants to be lonely or alone and they want to ensure that they are going about it the right way.

If we worry too much about men's interest and not enough about our own, this can lead to a potentially disastrous relationship. Of course you need to figure out what makes them tick, what turns them on and what you have in common, but always ensure that you have your own interests at heart. After all, it is always a two-way street and they should be equally as concerned about you.

You may have to play a subtle game as you balance your wants and needs to be with him with the fact that you must not try and develop a relationship too fast. As men's interest is traditionally best when they are expected to play a chasing game, anything less and they're likely to lose interest, which could be detrimental to your future.

Rather than try and work out men's interest, why not turn the tables and make him try and work out women's interests, instead? In other words, take your position and turn it around completely. While you are very intent on trying to be with him, instead pretend to be very blase about it. It appears that men typically like this kind of independence and it can be an attraction factor.

Remember that you must have a balanced life and must not get too engrossed in men's interest. They will not be particularly interested in you, in turn, if they see that you're going out of your way to be in their company or to otherwise influence. The basis of a solid and long-lasting relationship involves leading a normal and natural existence, without being overly fixated on any one thing.

At any one moment, men's interest can be fixed upon a career, sports, the family or male friends. With such an array of formidable opponents, how can a girl fit in and attract his attention. The answer is to be accepting, to understand that all these areas are very important and to become, naturally, a part of every element. This will take some time and it is not possible to rush, so tread warily.

You may have to look for some subtle signs when trying to find out if your target guy is actually responding. Don't expect the answer to be obvious, yet don't read too much into something that may not be there, either. Just take it easily and things will work in your direction.

Whether you believe it or not, women's interest and men's interest are very similar. If you look at it from an overall perspective, the man is also looking for a great relationship, security, comfort and a meaningful partnership, so bear this in mind at all times.

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