Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Dating Material or Not?

By Alan Bentley

How can you tell if a guy is dating material, even though you feel that you have a strange kind of attraction for him? This is a situation that we have probably all come across at some stage in our lives. When we are single and generally looking and meet someone amongst a group of friends who provides a certain kind of spark in our attention, it is difficult to know what to do.

Many people say that before you can become a couple, you need to be good friends and this is where you should start when you are trying to work out if someone is dating material or not. Some people are worried that if they establish a great friendship and it goes on to dating which then ends in disaster, that their friendship will be wrecked. Nothing ventured, nothing gained!

Have you heard the saying that somebody cannot be good dating material if they are too nice? This in itself can put a lot of girls off when it comes to trying to make the next move and to develop something, but ultimately you should let your heart tell you what is right as your instincts are generally always to be trusted.

Before worrying about whether a guy is good dating material, use the time that you are friends to really observe what he is like deep down within. Find out whether he is trustworthy, honest and will be monogamous when you are together and really observe his character during this time.

It makes a lot of sense to take things slowly and never rush into a relationship of any kind until you have really had a chance to gauge whether the guy is trustworthy and worthy of your time. Once you are officially dating, a lot of things will change anyway.

We all know, deep down inside, that if we jump into a situation it is not likely to work out. Whereas "love at first sight," is a great concept to believe in, you must be able to see the bigger picture, even if this means stepping back for a moment. Loneliness will not, by itself, be enough of a reason to data someone and you will likely feel a lot worse than you did to start off with if you get taken for a ride.

Don't you think it is a good idea to just let a good old-fashioned romance take its course over the course of several months? Some crazy girls think that they need to focus on whether someone is marriage material before they really even know if he is good dating material! Understand that both parties need a long period of time and a lot of water will need to flow underneath the bridge before you can make such decisions.

Does a nice guy have to be boring and predictable? Is it true that nice guys finish last? These are significant questions for a girl who is looking to decide whether he is dating material or not.

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