Sunday, September 20, 2009

Obsessive Conduct That Can Stop You From Enjoying A Stress Free Life

By Chris T. Evans

Leading a stress-free life can be hard but there are three things that can hold you back from living stress free. Understanding what these obstacles are is a big step towards a solution.

One of the first behaviors that causes stress and anxiety is a negative outlook. They have a intensely negative look at people, relationships, and themselves.

Perhaps you find yourself saying things like "I can't do this!" or "No one understands!" or "Nothing ever works!", for example. You may be doing this unconsciously, but essentially you have what's known as a "sour grapes" attitude, and it holds you back from knowing what it's like to view life from a positive lens and enjoy the beauty in yourself and people around you! There's a whole world out there for you...with happiness and positive thinking.

Then you have obsessive perfectionism. When you engage in obsessive perfectionism, you are centered on trying to do everything "just so" to the point of driving yourself into an anxious state of being. You may find yourself making statements such as, "I have to do this right, or I'll be a failure!" or "If I am not precise, people will be mad at me!" Again, this behavior may be totally under the threshold of your awareness, but it interferes greatly with your ability to enjoy things without feeling "uptight" and "stressed."

Finally there is obsessive analysis. When you are obsessed about analyzing things, you find yourself wanting to re-hash a task or an issue over and over again. For instance, you might find yourself making statements such as, "I need to look this over, study it, and know it inside and out...or else I can't relax!" or "If I relax and let things go without looking them over repeatedly, things go wrong!"

Gaining insight into this type of behavior is one of the most important keys to letting go of stress, and getting complete power over your anxiety.

Look at your behavior closely and turn to your loved ones for help. Have them make an honest assessment of your behavior. Accept what they have to say and use there comments to help you crush crush stress and anxiety.

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