Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Your Moving On The Break Up Is Over

By Melissa Clark

Sometimes moving on (break up, loss or other major change ) is hard. It's barely simple unless you're so glad to get out of a situation that you can't wait to make changes and go on. A break up disrupts your full life. Everything you do and see seems to remind you think about your ex. If you had many mutual friends, even going out to keep from going stir crazy can be difficult.

One of the most important hurdles you have to face when you are prepared to move on is your family and friends. If your ex was popular with your family, you're going to get bored of questions on the situation. You have to explain to them that you're moving on, break up is over, and you don't appreciate consistently being reminded of your ex and the past relationship.

Sometimes this is difficult for family to deal with. They wish to keep bringing up the person in the hopes that you will get back together. You can just explain, "Moving on, break up is over, that's that." Eventually they'll come around because they are your family and they like you. It's potentially going to be tougher to deal with when it comes to your buddies.

If you did not have many mutual friends, then it should be less of a difficulty. But if the 2 of you often hung out with the same group of people, then you going alone to be with those pals is going to appear weird to everyone for a while. And then there's the issue of your ex wanting to hang around with the chums, too. You might even run into each attempt to hang around with your common buddies. This does not imply that it's obligatory when you are moving on break up with your buddies. It's just simply going to be more difficult to maintain some of those friendships once the relationship is over.

As troublesome as it appears, when you are saying, "Moving on, break up is history," you may have to give give up some of those friendships. You and your ex may each have to keep in contact with only certain buddies in your group of mutual friends. Just try and maintain good contact and relationships with those you're closest to and allow your ex to do the same with the others. While this will be painful, it's likely easiest on everyone because they do not need to choose which of you to be loyal to and which to avoid.

Sometimes the "moving on break up" period is just too tough when you are besieged by mutual friends and so many places to go together. If feasible, go on a vacation to get away from the same scenery and people. Take a holiday with a buddy who isn't concerned in the situation; maybe a mate of yours who wasn't chums with your ex. This could help you get some viewpoint. Once you have announced, "moving on; break up over" then if you can take some time away it can help you a great deal.

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